Get Divorced, Be Happy: How becoming single turned out to be my happily ever after

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Following years of campaigns to remove the need to ‘blame’ one of the parties seeking Divorce by citing adultery or unreasonable behaviour, the Government has finally responded to calls to reform divorce law. I will never forgive him for lying to me but it has been three years since the divorce was final and I try to be civil when I see him. Every day I am more content and stable. I feel now that I can be happy every day. My ex was not happy for the last decade, at least, of our marriage. He made our household an awful place while he tried hard to play out his fantasies of “having it all”. ‘The loss of companionship and intimacy is hard’ Has the divorce damaged my children? Would my kids be happier now if we’d stayed together? Does my divorce doom them to future poor relationships? Are they suffering?” To be granted a divorce in the UK, a court must be satisfied that a marriage lasting longer than a year has irretrievably broken down to a degree where it cannot be saved.

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I was married to someone I wasn’t even sure I wanted to be with. But there I was and a year later I ended up pregnant. Again, I definitely wasn’t ready for this, not at all. But it was mental pressure from him and his family to have children. I was too afraid to say no again. We ended up having a beautiful baby boy who was born prematurely at 30 weeks, 2.5 months before his due date. It was very difficult seeing your 1.4kg baby in the hospital inside the incubator connected to all these wires but we got through it and we have a healthy, 2-year-old, beautiful and clever boy. Lots of things resulted in it but the moment I realised it was over was when we moved into our house and he kept accusing me of having affairs, phoning me when I was at work events and ruining the nights with it, then there was the fact he didn’t want to come with me to see family or be bothered with them. I thought of stereotypical divorce as something that happens a lot further down the line when you have grown-up children. AliciaOften clients tell me how important it is to be able to slow down and focus on themselves. A key to happiness for many is to reconnect with friends and reclaim interests they neglected or gave up. The Conclusion: Divorce Alone Will Not Make You Happy At that moment I needed strength and support from my family and friends.I’d tell my past self: “You go girl! It might seem impossible at the moment but it gets better! You’ll get through this!” For women in their 20s and 30s – when the rest of the friendship group are often single, in a relationship or newlywed – leaving their marriage can be a particularly isolating time. The judgement and self-stigma that comes with being the divorced one is unsurprisingly difficult to navigate.

Get Divorced, Be Happy: How becoming single turned out

My ex-husband of over 30 years started acting differently. He was behaving as if he didn’t want to be with me, arguing with me and our son all the time. Finally, I left him and then I filed for divorce. Only then did I discover he’d been seeing his first wife. That I am my own person and no one can control you and you do what you want, as I am allowed to be happy. Your sage advice for anyone else going through this right now or thinking divorce is the right decision for them?

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Don’t rush things. Take it easy and see where life takes you. Stay true to yourself, nobody has the right to change you. If they don’t accept you the way you are, they’re not worth being with you. The most difficult part was getting him to agree on that because in their culture it’s a great shame for a man if his wife decides to leave him,but I knew what I wanted and I wasn’t afraid anymore. I was nervous to tell them at first I thought they would all say I failed, but once I told them they were fully supportive and were surprised it took so long, as they could see the problems before me. But obviously, no one could tell me that, I had to figure it out myself. My advice to others is don’t be afraid, there are people out there if you’re scared or if you need help, and I know love is a strong feeling but you need to live the life you want, not feel suffocated and unhappy. Jasmine

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Helen is the author of the book Get Divorced, Be Happy: How becoming single turned out to be my happily ever after. The three divorcees discuss their first-hand experience of going through the emotional process of Divorce, the reasons for having a divorce, dating in your 40s and finding happiness within. Is dating a younger man the key to sexual liberation? We delve deep. Join comedian Helen Thorn from The Scummy Mummies as she haphazardly takes the plunge into single life for the first time in twenty-two years. I did worry about financial struggles. I was only working part-time as I studied with the Open University, so I knew I wouldn’t be able to support myself if I went solo. That’s why I’m so grateful for my friend who allowed me to stay with her. I was able to afford to pay her some rent money whilst studying. It also meant that for a long time I was trying to save money in case I needed it for my car, divorce proceedings and other costly things, so I lived on beans on toast and didn’t treat myself for a while. I now look at my marriage and know, very confidently, that yes, we were definitely not good for each other. Of course, as soon as I left, all the red flags came flooding forward (from the past 6 years of our romantic relationship.) I’ve also come to the wonderful conclusion that I am, and never will be, the victim. I had done everything right and stayed true to my heart. I was committed, faithful, and hardworking. It is CLEAR as day that my husband was/is the victim of his own crimes, and will forever live in the filth and consequences of his actions. I won’t! It had nothing to do with me, and my life has become my own again. Never again will I sacrifice my emotions or boundaries, and I will respect my heart from now on. I have the freedom to do and say whatever I want, and no one will ever take that away from me again. I am victorious, and he is vile.Did you ever have doubts about getting a divorce based on other factors outside of the relationship itself (such as financial struggles, children /pets involved) and how it would affect your lifestyle? My husband (at the time,) and I had been together for 5 years and married for one (married Sept 2020.) From August 2021-December 2021, he became extremely emotionally abusive and very distant from our love life. He would constantly abandon me at home to go out and party/drink with friends, and he began spending a lot of time at the gym. Whenever I would express concern or hurt, I was downplayed & degraded. It had gotten so bad, that I finally decided to leave him on December 22nd, 2021, and stay the night at my parent’s house. The next morning he called, and finally confessed that he had been cheating on me since the summer. That’s when I knew I had not been crazy all along, and all my emotions had been valid. We are now separated, and I can file for divorce on December 23rd, 2022 (this Christmas.) I will have just turned 28 years old. Helen is a superwoman. She is honest, open and makes us giggle without making us feel guilty for laughing. Her heart is full of love Gaby Roslin To trust your gut and do what is right for you. You can’t live your life being unhappy just to please everyone else around you. At the same time, I know some people choose to work on relationships and they happily stay together. For me, I now know this was what was right for me. Divorce alone will not solve mental-health issues such as depression or self-esteem. You’ll need to work on how you got into this predicament, why you chose this spouse, what you did wrong, and what you can learn about yourself in self-reflection that will improve your next relationships.

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Sir Paul Coleridge, a former high court judge, has said that many people wish they hadn’t ended their marriage. This follows a survey by the law firm Seddons that found 22% of those who had divorced wished they hadn’t done so.

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So if you’re considering going it alone, please don’t feel isolated. The resounding opinion is, it’s not as bad as you think. In fact single parenting can be really lovely sometimes – and there are mums all over the world acing it. But if you’re struggling, or feeling unsure, then there are plenty of books, advice and guidance available. I’m 25 years old (26 in a few weeks) and I’m from Estonia.I was married to a guy from Syria for 3.5 years. I got married one day before my 22nd birthday. Got divorced at 25. I’ll try to explain our story as shortly as possible. I could keep talking about this for hours, probably could even write a book! Citizens Advice is also a great place to start if you’re thinking of splitting and wondering how to start the whole process. They’ll be able to tell you your rights, and put you in touch with low cost lawyers in your area.